Is Teenage Sex Rampant in Kenya”As he thinketh in his heart so is he” .A Shocking study carried out in June 2008, and May 2009 by Center of Study of Adolescence showed that 40% of teenage girls and 50% of teenage boys have teenage sex before their 19th birthday.
It revealed that Young girls are involved in teenage sex for petty things such as mobile phones, airtime, chips and sanitary pads just to mention a few. The study concluded that the trend at which this behaviour is increasing is alarming. What could be the cause to this?Teenage Sex in Kenya)
The gap between the rich and the poor enlarging by every day. This clearly state’s that poverty is growing fast. A teenage girl from a poor family is therefore vulnerable and prone to practise teenage sex so that she can provide for her family and meet her other needs and not look so poor in school.
The unfortunate thing is that these young girls are not only having sex with men much older than them for financial gain but the study showed they do not even use preventive measures such as condoms so the fight against HIV/AIDS, STDs and unwanted pregnancy will continue to grow amongst our youth.
b) Peer pressure
Some young girls in school who have already engaged in sex can influence the others who haven’t had sex by bragging with the gifts they get from having sex with boyfriends or sugar daddies. With boys there is also peer pressure whereby a boy is made to feel less of a man because he has not been involved in premarital sex.
There are also communities in Kenya that advise boys after circumcision, that they can engage in sex to “boost” their manhood. , or they can hear other boys in school discussing about their escapade with their girlfriend.
Media also has a role to play in encouraging teenage sex. This is because there are programmes that discuss issues with sexual connotations during the day and even on television, on all Kenyan stations there are soaps with explicit content available.
Teenagers are in their experimenting stage so when they are alone they are bound to try all these sexual behaviours that lead to teenage sex in an attempt to fit in society.
d) Lack of Reproductive Health and Sex Education
In the olden days when I was growing up, a child belonged to the whole community. That means that if any adult saw any child misbehaving they could reprimand them but today each parent to their child or children. Parenting teenagers need emotional and physical presence of a parent which is lacking due to career parents who lack essential time for their families.
Nowadays due to the death of community parenting, teenager’s discipline has deteriorated. These teenagers tend to run to those who are ready and available to listen to them, who are their fellow teenagers or friends who cannot offer good sex education.
We have become a very materialistic society. An example of this materialism is found in our tourist attraction venues where children are made to practise prostitution. There is increased rate of sex tourism in Kenya. Young girls are lured with gifts by tourists and even promises to take them abroad if they satisfy them sexually.
House helps either a boy or a girl also follow the trend where by the boss man lures the house girl in to having sex with her for salary increment, or better jobs. School dropouts’ young boys due to lack of fees and are employed for casual jobs by rich families may be taken advantage of by women boss who buys them all they need in exchange for sex.
THE EFFECTS OF TEENAGE SEX IN KENYA
Due to lack of sex education, teenagers will tends to engage in reckless teenage sex with different partners without protection and the danger is that they increase their chances of contracting the deadly disease Aids.
Young girls engaging in unprotected teenage sex increases their chances of getting pregnant, and since they are young, they are not ready to become mother’s. They then put alot of pressure on their families for increasing the number of the family unexpectedly.
If a girl becomes pregnant due to teenage sex, she can be forced to drop out of school because and this means unless the family is supportive of the teenage girl, she is never likely to go back to school which means it will decreases her chances of getting married and place her in the low income bracket earner thus ensuring poverty continues in her home.
When teenage girls practise teenage sex and they become pregnant, some of them decide to abort. Due to increase of unprofessional doctors who perform back door abortion to earn money, teenage girls are losing their lives day by day. They die due to their tender age and also the equipments used for the operation are substandard. They can die due to pain and the over bleeding. In the process we loose our future generation and this can create a generation gap.
The child who is born to a teenage mother is likely to get an unhappy childhood especially if the teenage parents are not supportive. This is because a teenage mother is too young to be a good mother and also the fact that her earning capacity is minimal she cannot afford to provide her child with a good life. The child will therefore grow up in a Poor environment.
How Can Teenage Sex In Kenya be Curbed?
1. Sex and reproductive health education in schools should be taught by professional counsellors. The teenagers need to through a series of counseling to know the changes that take place in their bodies during puberty. This counselling should not only be done in school but also at home.
2. Teenagers should also embrace sex education and learn on how to control their increased sexual activity.
3. Parents should have open discourse with their children since charity begins at home. Parents should take parental roles seriously and try as much as possible to be available in their physical and emotional life of their teenagers.
4. HIV/AIDS awareness should be in every county and addition of VTCs to mobilize all members of the society to know their status and counsel on the ways of staying HIV free.
5. Government should also impose a higher penalty on those cyber cafes that allow pornography in their establishments. They should strengthen the policies on curbing internet pornography even in the sites which are not filtered on cyber space in general.
6. The Government also needs to regulate radio and television content so that our Children and teenagers are not exposed unnecessarily and very early to behaviours that encourage sexual activity.
7. The church should also be active in teaching on ways to avoid premaritalsex and teach our kidsthe ways of the Lord which are pure and Holy. The Church also speak in one voice in matters of contraceptives and condoms in order not to confuse these vulnerable teenagers.
In conclusion, teenage sex is unacceptable in every society and even though it seems the hip thing in secular society, Parents can avoid this more than any one else. This is because we know our children from birth and we can therefore introduce them from an early age to Christian teachings that enable them to behave in the right manner.
Teenagers of today are also very tricky and have to be watched like a hawk so Parents again when you have a teenager in the house, then you have to reduce your workload because you need to kyt, Know your teenager, unless you do not mind surprises. Talk to them more and ask them to help you understand them if we must eradicate teenage sex in our homes.